Parents Have The Opportunity To Create Someone Special
The great enemy of creativity is fear. When we are fearful, we freeze up. Creativity has a lot to do with a willingness to take risks. Think about how children play. They run around outside, They trip, they get up and run some more. They believe everything will be all right. They are not fearful. They feel capable, and they let go of their inhibitions, allowing themselves to grow.
|My father surprised by the bell!|
Young children are so impressionable. Babies and toddlers should not be jolted or scared in any intentional manner. If you were to compare the dark psychological syndromes of being a soldier in combat to the negative physical and mental strife many parents put their children through, most parents would immediately change their ways.
Emit Positive Energy:
Never scold directly. Rather, comment on a child's poor (or questionable) decision in a constructive, conversational, and analytical manner - as a learning experience. If an adult can be trusted (by the child) to not look down on the child, the elder will become a confidant, and quickly, the two will build a close, life long, mutually trustworthy relationship. Most parent - child relationships are not as honest and forthright as either (the child or adult) would like. Begin at birth, treating the child as an equal member of the family, and you will never look back!
Talk and Listen with Patience:
Total respect in dialog with children. Treat your littlest ones with dignity. Use intelligent questions. Use open-ended questions. Give honest answers. Express feelings sincerely. Don't be afraid to say, "I don't know"..."but we can find out"! Take an interest in your child's verbal expressions. Don't finish their sentences for them. Allow them to explain in their manner and at their pace (It is okay to repeat their thoughts in grammatically correct form).
Live in the Present:
When a child experiences complete committment, on the part of the adult, to be 'in the moment', (committing solely to the present), it becomes a most magical experience for all. Time becomes
precious, momentous, and resolute.
Here is a "page" from Story People, by Brian Andreas (This tidbit helps to clarify the thought process of the child.)
"... these are all the street signs for this area,
but he keeps moving them around at night.
So, the only people who aren't lost all the time are the children,
who never pay attention to signs anyway"
The best present for our children is to be totally in the present with them. We, as influential adults, can become closer to our beloved children, when we provide the highest "quality" time, and simply become lost in 'the moment'.
Cheers, Papa Green Bean